Day 25 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: Your biggest regret

Fortunately, I don’t have big regrets, only small ones. I live my life by “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” philosophy. And I believe regrets can’t be undone so make good and move on.No regrets

My biggest small regret is spending $7.99 for a four-pack of Starbucks Double Shots at a small general store by my family’s cottage in Clare County. When I mentioned to the store clerk how glad I was that the store carried my favorite drink, which can be hard to find, he said he’d keep them in stock. Now I feel I must put my money where my mouth is and support the store by buying Double Shots whenever I go to the general store.

I don’t mean to trivialize regrets, as there are some who live with them daily. To those I say, forgive yourself, learn from your regrets and move forward. Beauty can be made from ashes.

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Day 24 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: What attracts you (in love)?

Dale and Mary, April 2014

Dale and Mary, April 2014

What attracts me in love is simple. Someone willing to do scrub the pots and pans which saves wear and tear on my already less than perfect right shoulder. Someone who loves me, in spite of myself. Someone who knows I’m less than perfect and doesn’t remind me of my faults but occasionally my limitations. Someone who looks out for my health, even when it annoys me, because I don’t do it myself. Someone who is blends his imperfections with mine making us imperfect together. That someone is my husband Dale.

I have to thank my then-best-friend Nanci (David) Klein for putting into words that which I could not.

It was May 1981 in the girl’s bathroom at Midland High School. As high school juniors, Nanci and I had excused ourselves from home economics class so I could work out a personal crisis. I was pacing the ugly tiled bathroom floor, ranting about a girl (another friend of mine) who liked Dale. I couldn’t figure out why I was so bothered, annoyed, worked up about the situation. Afterall, I had recently introduced Dale and this girl to each other. I had known Dale since I was 12 or 13. He was my cousin Roger’s best friend and since Roger was like my brother, I saw Dale often and as a family friend only.

I had never considered Dale a potential love interest until that fateful day when Nanci, sitting on the bathroom sink, stated the obvious: “You’re in love with Dale.” It was like the proverbial light bulb going on in my head. Suddenly it was so clear, weird but clear. Dale and I were polar opposites. How can this be? But I knew it was true.

Dale and I dated for three years before marrying in 1984. On July 7, 2015, we celebrated 31 years of marriage. We love our three daughters, one son, two son-in-laws and two grandchildren. We’ve battled many storms together but always come out closer. We are a team and together, we can handle anything that comes our way.

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Day 23 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: If you won the lottery …

Michigan LotteryIt depends on how much I won. Paying off debt would the first thing. I’d also start a foundation where high school and college students can apply for scholarships and non-profits can apply for grants. Since January 2015, I’ve seen the non-profit world from the inside. The need is great and some of the programs offered are amazing.

Locally, there are a few non-profits that are near and dear to my heart.

The Johnny Burke Children’s Foundation is a foundation dedicated to children. Established in 1996 but radio personality Johnny Burke, the foundation has donated more than one million dollars to a variety of causes helping children. Recently, the foundation began helping teachers buy supplies for their classrooms instead of the teachers using their personal money to do so. Any cause that improves the lives of children is worth supporting. Check out the foundation’s website.

Adoption Option, Inc. – This non-profit improves the lives of children and their families. Adoption Option, Inc. offers family preservation and reunification programs, adoption and foster care services and mentoring programs. Staff members come alongside families to help parents be the best parents they can be. For children in the foster care system, the organization offers mentoring programs and adoption services when those children can’t return to their home but find a loving family to call their own.

Cancer Services of Midland – I learned about this organization while participating in the American Cancer Society’s Relay for Life last July. And although the American Cancer Society is a worthy cause, all money raised and awarded to Cancer Services of Midland stays in the area. Their mission is “to provide personal and compassionate cancer support, education, and prevention services to Midland, Clare, and Gladwin counties.”

Whether you live in the United States, India, England or anywhere else in the world, I encourage you to find an organization that supports a cause near and dear to your heart. One person can make a difference.

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Day 22 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: Your worst habits

Procrastination is my worst habit. Procrastination is the delaying or postponing of something. It comes into play when there’s a tedious, boring task I need to do but am so tired of doing it. Sometimes I procrastinate about washing the dishes, doing laundry, (didn’t I do three loads yesterday?)  or grocery shopping.

Procrastination is nowhere in sight when there’s something fun, new or interesting to do. Give me a writing assignment, a new trail to walk, an adventure to take, new people to meet and I’m into it!

Can anyone relate?

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‘The work of a writer is to write’

To write or not to write. There is no question.

‘The work of a writer is to write‘ Thank you, Rashen Dalal.

This is so true for me. I write for the enjoyment. Whether it’s a grant, advertising content, a feature story or a random post such as this. Writing is enjoyable. Fame and fortune not required nor are they goals. And if others are amused/entertained/enlightened by my writing, then we are amused/entertained/enlightened together.

This applies to anything that you enjoy doing.

The work of a gardener is to garden.

The work of a painter is to paint.

The work of a singer is to sing.

What’s your “work”?

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Day 21 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: What makes you sad?

This is a not so happy or funny post.

Sometimes the sad gives way to mad.

  • People who feel they have no hope, someone who’s hurting mentally, emotionally or physically. There’s always hope, always a bright side, a better tomorrow. If I can, I like to give people a glimpse of hope, a look at the bright side or a reminder of a better tomorrow.
  • Adults who neglect or harm children, animals and vulnerable adults. That’s all I can say about this as my blog is rated G for all audiences.
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Day 20 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge: What makes you happy?

I’m a pretty happy person most of the time. But some things make me feel a deep sense of happiness, perhaps, joy.

  • The excitement with which my grandchildren say “grandma!” each time they see me.
  • When me and my kids (kid-in-laws included) spend quality time together. 

  • Lying in bed and seeing the stars shine in the night sky; the Big Dipper shows itself outside my bedroom window.
  • A big, bright moon lighting up the night.
  • Helping someone in need.
  • Getting lost in a really good book. I can read for hours if it’s a really good book.
  • Writing a piece that turned out better than I thought it would. Many years ago, I wrote an election night coverage story for my hometown newspaper that turned out so well, to this day, that story is one of my favorites. It was one of those stories that seemed to write itself.
  • Fridays!
  • Starbucks Double Shots – There’s nothing like drinking a Starbucks Double Shot as the tasty liquid caresses my throat and the feel of espresso kick starting my day! It’s happiness in a can.

Awesome Readers, please share what makes you happy.

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